Think about the Saints. They are considered as such because they helped others, not because they had a fixation on themselves. So the most important factor is motivation, and the most honest way of thinking is the well-being of others.
Bookmark this blog as you pass by it. When you are down, lost or lonely. When you are angry, violent or depressed. Come back and find something that will make you see life and the world in maybe more of a relaxed comfortable and inspirational way. "We are all connected".
On life's journey faith is nourishment, virtuous deeds are a shelter, wisdom is the light by day and right mindfulness is the protection by night. If a man lives a pure life nothing can destroy him; if he has conquered greed nothing can limit his freedom. – Buddha